Key Takeaways:
- How personal style and confidence are deeply connected
- The role of authenticity in building a confident style
- Practical tips for aligning your style with your identity
- Why style is a form of non-verbal communication
- Personal stories and insights from Grant’s own style journey
In this solo episode of House of Style, Grant Alexander explores the secret connection between style and confidence, discussing how personal style goes far beyond fashion and can be a powerful tool to boost confidence in all aspects of life. Many people think of style as simply the clothes they wear, but in this episode, Grant reveals how aligning your outward appearance with your inner identity can transform how you feel about yourself — and how others perceive you.
Grant shares insights into cultivating a personal style that reflects your true self can naturally build confidence. He explains how embracing authenticity in how you present yourself makes you feel more comfortable in your own skin and projects confidence to the world around you. Whether it’s in your professional life, social interactions, or even in casual settings, style can serve as a visual representation of who you are and what you stand for.
This episode goes beyond fashion, as Grant emphasizes how style connects with your mindset, attitude, and daily habits. From posture and body language to choosing outfits that align with your personality and values, Grant breaks down the small, intentional choices that can greatly impact your overall confidence.
He also touches on the power of first impressions and how to use style as a form of nonverbal communication. Whether you’re stepping into a meeting, attending a social event, or just going about your day, Grant explains how the right style choices can help you feel more empowered and ready to take on any challenge. Confidence, after all, is contagious — and when you feel good about your style, it radiates to everyone around you.
In addition, Grant shares personal anecdotes about how his style journey has shaped his confidence, from the outfits he chooses to how he carries himself in different settings. He provides actionable tips for listeners to align their style with their personal goals, including breaking free from external pressures and trends that don’t serve them.
This episode is perfect for anyone looking to explore the deeper connection between style and confidence, especially for those who might feel unsure about how to build a personal style that reflects their true self. By the end, you’ll better understand how embracing your style can lead to greater self-assurance, success, and authenticity in all areas of life.
Tune in to find out how style can be the key to unlocking your complete confidence and learn practical steps to start building a personal style that supports who you are and where you want to go. Whether you’re new to the concept of personal style or looking to refine your approach, this episode offers valuable insights into why style isn’t just about clothes — it’s about showing up as your best self, every day.
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Transcript
Welcome back to House of style.
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:I'm your host, Grant Alexander, and today
we're going to dive into something
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:I think is so important.
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:The powerful connection
between style and confidence.
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:Now, when we talk about style, most people
immediately think about clothes.
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:But today
I want to take a deeper than that.
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:Style is how you present yourself
to the world, whether that's through
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:your clothing, your actions,
or how you live your life and confidence.
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:Well, confidence is what fuels
all of that.
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:It fuels the attitude and the vibe
that you put out to those around you.
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:In this episode, we're going to explore
the secret connection
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:between your personal style
and how confident you feel.
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:You might be surprised
at just how intertwined the two are.
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:If you haven't thought about it before,
and while we'll talk a little bit
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:about clothing and how it does
play a role or can play a role.
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:The real focus is on
how your style as a whole
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:can boost your confidence, and in turn,
how confidence fuels your style.
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:By the end of this episode,
my hope is that you'll start to see
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:how aligning your inner self
with your outer expression
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:through style can unlock a new level
of confidence in your life.
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:Let's start by
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:talking about why this topic matters.
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:Confidence
is something we all want, right?
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:It's that feeling that allows us
to walk into a room and know we belong.
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:It helps us take risks, speak up and go
after what we really want in life.
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:But here's the thing.
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:Confidence isn't something
that just magically appears.
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:It's built over time.
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:And one of the most powerful ways to build
it is through your personal style.
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:Now, many people think styles
about clothes, but it's not.
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:Style is. It's
how you express who you are.
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:And when that expression is aligned
with your authentic self.
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:Something I talk about regularly.
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:Confidence naturally follows.
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:Whether it's through your clothing
choices, how you carry yourself,
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:or how you communicate.
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:Style plays a key role in shaping
how confident you feel
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:and when your inner self and your outer
expression or outer self are in sync.
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:That's
when your true confidence comes alive.
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:And when you know you can do
whatever it is that you're trying to do.
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:Now, getting
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:vulnerable myself,
there have been plenty of times
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:when I wasn't fully confident
in how I presented myself.
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:My mask is
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:clothing for me.
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:I was so confident that no matter
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:what outfit
I put on, that would help me get through
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:the lack of confidence in any other area.
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:So my personal style and relying on that
from a clothing perspective helps,
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:you know, take confidence from one area
and give me the courage
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:to take action in another area,
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:which will in turn make me more confident.
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:Starting a podcast
and putting it out into the world.
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:Knowing that the first bunch
you do are going to not only be judged
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:even harder as people make a decision
if they'll keep listening or watching, but
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:also knowing that a ton of people won't
listen or watch right away.
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:You have to work at it.
You have to show up.
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:You have to be consistent
and you have to have fun doing it.
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:I love what I'm doing.
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:It's I'm passionate about it.
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:I want to be here.
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:I want to help in any way I can.
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:And I know that through
my personal style and in how
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:from so many
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:other areas in my life, when I do that
and I do that in my style
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:of how I treat people,
the vibe and energy of what I put out
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:and the love and passion
that goes into what I do.
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:I'm confident I can do what it takes
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:to succeed in whatever I'm trying to do,
like build this
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:enormous house and style
brand up from the ground.
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:For myself and maybe many of you listening
or watching, it can feel like trying
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:to fit into a certain mold, whether that's
in your appearance or actions.
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:I remember thinking,
if I just dress like everyone else or act
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:the way people expect, then I can get them
to listen to what I'm saying
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:because they won't be as distracted
by my fantastic and amazing outfits.
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:Then they'll love what I'm doing
and I'll feel more confident.
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:But you know what?
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:It doesn't work.
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:I felt like I was wearing a costume,
and that disconnect between my outer
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:appearance and my inner self only
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:made me feel more unsure of myself.
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:It wasn't
until I started connecting my style
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:with who I truly am, both in how I dress
and how I live my life,
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:that my confidence really started to grow.
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:When I began to focus on what made me feel
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:good,
not just what looked good on the outside
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:or what I thought people wanted to see me
in, I noticed a shift.
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:I started choosing clothes
that reflected my values and personality.
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:What I wanted to share.
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:I stopped trying to fit
into someone else's idea
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:or mold of what I should look like,
and I started embracing my own style.
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:I was fortunate enough
that I had a couple people
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:that kind of ushered that in
or allowed me to.
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:And that's what I hope to be for you.
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:I want you to know that it's okay
to dress, to look, to act the way
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:you want to.
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:And as my style continues
to become more authentic.
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:My confidence continues to follow in that.
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:And I know yours will too.
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:I think a lot of us have been there,
whether it's wearing something
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:that looks good but doesn't feel right,
or presenting yourself in a way that
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:doesn't reflect who you truly are.
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:When there's a disconnect
between how you present yourself
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:and how you feel inside, confidence
can't really show up.
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:And that's the key.
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:Now that we've talked
about personal experience,
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:let's dive into what I think
are some key concepts that show
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:you how deeply
style and confidence are connected.
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:I kind of break it down into three
main points and I want to explore those.
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:They can help you better understand
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:how to use style as a tool
to boost your confidence.
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:And that's obviously what we're here for.
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:So first style reflects your identity.
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:Your style should be an expression
of who you are,
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:not just what you think
will impress others.
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:When you align, how you dress,
how you speak, and how you carry yourself
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:with who you truly are,
your confidence will increase because
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:you're no longer trying to hide or pretend
you're not wearing that mask anymore.
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:It is so freeing and self assuring.
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:And when you try that
and do that and experience it,
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:you're going to want to continue
to do that in other areas of your life.
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:Your competence will continue to build.
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:You're showing up as yourself,
and that authenticity
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:just naturally breeds confidence.
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:Second,
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:clothing can be a powerful tool
for confidence.
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:Now, I know this is the style podcast
not about clothing, but
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:when you talk about clothing
and your general appearance, how are you?
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:You know, factoring and grooming
and in just the way you come off
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:and look to people,
the story you're sharing about what's
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:inside your head and how your attitude
is reflected in your appearance.
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:It's not just about wearing the latest
trends or the most expensive brands.
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:And in fact, I truly believe
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:wearing expensive
brands is an even bigger mask.
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:And that's shows
a different type of lack of confidence.
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:But I'm
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:not saying you can't have expensive
or nice things because there are some
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:absolutely gorgeous, expensive
brand things.
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:It's about how you wear those clothes
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:that make you feel like
the best version of yourself.
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:When you put on an outfit
that aligns with who you are.
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:It's like putting on a suit of armor.
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:Nothing's going to touch you when I know
that I'm in a fantastic outfit.
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:Nothing else can touch me, even if I'm
nervous or worried about something else.
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:You feel stronger, more empowered,
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:more ready to take on
whatever comes your way.
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:It's amazing
how something as simple as a well-chosen
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:outfit can shift your mindset
and those around you.
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:It starts conversations.
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:It gets you in the door.
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:It's such an easy thing to add
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:one little element, something really small
that can help boost your confidence.
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:And third, confidence
comes from consistency and action.
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:Taking action when your style
consistently reflects who you are.
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:You build trust in yourself,
which will be reflected,
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:and people will pick up on that
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:and they'll see that
and you'll start to be more confident.
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:You don't have to second guess how you're
being perceived because you don't care.
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:You know you're showing up as yourself.
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:Confidence comes from knowing
that your inner self and outer self
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:are in alignment,
and that consistency allows you
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:to walk through life and any door
with a sense of ease and self-assurance.
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:No matter what you're doing.
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:So how can you build confidence
through your style?
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:Start by asking yourself
if your current style,
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:whether it's in your your clothes,
your habits, or how you carry yourself
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:if they truly reflect who you are
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:and if not, what small change,
small change
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:can you make to bring your style
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:into alignment with your authentic self?
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:It could be as simple as choosing clothes
that make you feel more empowered.
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:Standing a little taller,
or speaking with more intention
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:or kindness, or, you know, performing
more acts of generosity and kindness.
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:Connecting with others.
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:When your style and confidence
are aligned, it impacts
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:every area of your life.
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:You're going to feel more comfortable
in your own skin.
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:You're going to be more willing
to take risk and be more capable
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:of pursuing what you really want,
whether that's in your career,
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:your relationship, your personal goals,
whatever it is, confidence gives you
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:the strength to show up fully, and style
is the vehicle that gets you there.
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:I want you to take a moment to
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:think about how your style
has evolved over time,
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:and how that evolution has affected
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:your confidence,
either positively or negatively.
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:Have there been times when your style
gave you a confidence boost,
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:or times when it didn't quite match
how you felt inside?
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:Reflect on those moments
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:and consider how aligning
your personal style
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:can create a more powerful,
authentic version of yourself.
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:Take a positive moment you remember
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:and think about a little detail
that you can recreate today,
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:and then think about how to take it
one step further tomorrow.
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:Or make it a habit ongoing
and then repeat.
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:Repeat it in another area.
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:The more you continue to do this,
the more you take action
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:and have the courage to take action,
the more confident you're going to get.
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:And it happens quickly.
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:So today we we talked about
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:and explored the the secret connection
between style and confidence.
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:It's so, so much more than what you wear
can and is important.
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:But it's how you present yourself
to the world
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:in clothing when chosen with intention
and matching your personal style
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:and beliefs and values
and everything you love
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:that makes you feel happy
and confident inside can be
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:a really powerful tool
in boosting that confidence.
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:But it is also about how you carry
yourself, how you express those values,
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:and how you show up in life
every single day, no matter where you are,
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:when your style aligns with who you truly
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:are, your confidence naturally increases.
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:Said that three times to drive
that point home.
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:It's going to happen naturally with action
and with aligning those things.
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:It's easier than you think.
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:You just have to take the first step.
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:So here's my challenge for you this week.
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:Take one small step to connect your style
with your confidence.
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:Again,
think about a time you were confident
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:and recreate that style
in whatever you were doing.
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:Maybe that is through the clothes
you choose.
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:Maybe it's the way you carry yourself,
or the way express your thoughts
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:in a business or personal conversation,
or in relationship.
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:Notice
how the alignment affects your confidence
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:and how you move through the day
through the world.
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:Keep this process going
and it will build momentum
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:towards a perpetually more confident you.
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:That's it for now.
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:Thank you so much for joining me today
on this journey of style and confidence.
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:Be sure to tune in next week for another
inspiring guest episode as we continue
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:to explore the infinite ways style
can and will improve all of our lives
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:through some perspectives
of some pretty darn cool individuals.
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:See you next time on House of style
and until then, remember, style
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:isn't in your closet. It's in you.